Mobile Homecoming presents
Alexis and Sangodare are drawing from the wisdom of their elders, 11 years in romantic partnership and their own spiritual practice to offer lgbtq/sgl people committed to long term love a place to grow together. It’s a term that comes to us from L.A. area family Iyanifa Ifalade and Queen Hollins.
A space where qpoc/lgbtqpoc/sglpoc can gather and be supported by their peers using tried and tested tools including the wisdom and texts of Black Feminism. There are no experts here, only loveships that are committed to supporting one another and committed to growing the strength vitality and impact that their loveship can have in community, family and on the planet. This endeavor is work and requires a major investment and commitment but its bounty is exponential! We are creating a transnational fleet of loveships, a flock of lovebirds. We believe this work is as necessary as water, as sacred as birth and as valuable as home. Because it is home. It is homemaking.
To protect the intimacy of the space and all of our journeys, confidentially and non-disclosure agreements will be required of each participant.
- a lovebird is someone who soars above their current reality to reflect, release, reframe and transform their current reality, seeking a Loveship reality with another person.
- a lovebird is someone actively enrolled in a love practice toward the home, family and partnership they desire while drawing support from an intentional community, a flock on a similar journey.
- a lovebird is in flight; a lovebird is in love.
How ever it is that you identify this language is meant to be inclusive. We intend to join together in a generative journey together.
[ luvh-ship ] noun
- a loveship is the vehicle people take to intentionally be in partnership and collaboration with another or others for the sake of living out one's highest spiritually attuned purpose.
- a familial relationship of choice where two or more people grow spiritually and personally.
- loveship is a journey; loveship is generative space.
However you and your loved one self-identify (spouses, partners, couple, bae-baes, wives, husbands, etc.) if the language of loveship also resonates with you then it also applies and does not exclude your particular naming. We intend it as an inclusive terminolgy for the expansive prismatic creativity of our love...ships.
FOR LOVESHIPS - Loveship is for two lgbtq/sgl/queer people who have decided to be in a long term romantic or non-romantic committed relationship or partnership. We are prioritizing partnerships where both of the folks in the relationship self-identify as a person of color. This space is for people who are able to commit to a 3-hour introductory webinar, a one hour videochat with Alexis & Sangodare and peer support for one hour a week for four weeks to practice the tools offered in the webinar. We have space for five Loveships and will open a Love on Deck list to gauge the additional desire (details below).
To be clear, this space is not for loveships on the verge of a break (sinking ships?) but instead for Loveships which, like all relationships, may have challenges, need maintenance or just want more community for their Loveships, but most importantly which are committed to making a powerful difference on the planet. With the tools and practices that we hope to share with you we know that as a fleet we can be powerful transformation agents for the world.
Those who attend will be invited to upcoming Couples Retreats in Durham, NC and Anguilla, W.I. (in the Eastern Caribbean).
FOR LOVEBIRDS - The Lovebird program is for people who actively intend to be in a Loveship partnership and are not currently actualizing that reality with another person. This space is for queer people of color who have decided to prepare themselves to be in a long term romantic committed relationship or partnership. The Lovebird will also need to be able to commit to a 3-hour introductory webinar, a one hour videochat with Alexis & Sangodare and peer accountability for 30 minutes a week for four weeks to practice the tools and techniques offered in the webinar. We have space for ten Lovebirds and will open a waiting list to gauge the additional desire beyond that.
To be clear, this space is for people who are ready, able and willing to stretch and grow but have already come to a (self-determined) manageable level of balance around past relationships and trauma. We say this because this resource is not a substitute nor supplement to therapy. It is for those who feel that loveship and partnership are a powerful vehicle for actualizing divine purpose and have already begun a journey toward that end. With the tools and practices that we hope to share together we will be a powerful love-filled flock of lovebirds as we actualize our divine partner(s).
Lovebirds cohort registration coming soon!
NOTE: We do not guarantee that you will find a partner by participating in this journey. However, we do guarantee that you will get tools that you can use to that end. The tools work best if you work them.
LOVESHIPS - In the flow of our 11th couple anniversary we want to offer something back to our community. We also want to share some of the tools that have made our relationship be a place of nurturance, peace and growth for its own sake AND we want to share to generate more Loveship community for us to continue to grow and have support for our couple.
The first webinar will be for 5 loveships (of two people each) and the following five videochats (which happen over the course of the month) will last one hour.
Sunday, September 22nd (4-7pm)
Webinar with cohort facilitated by Alexis and Sangodare
Monday, September 23rd (individually scheduled with each Loveship)
Videochat with Alexis and Sangodare where supportive listening is practiced
September 28th - October 27th, New Moon to Full Moon
(4) Videochats - Practice space with another loveship and Alexis and Sangodare
October 27th (4-7pm) - Full Moon
LOVEBIRDS - The next round will be for Lovebirds, people pursuing Loveship/partnership but not currently in a relationship and will be for 10 individuals. There will be a webinar and the following videochat will be for 1 hour with Alexis & Sangodare and finally four videochats will be for 30mins with another Lovebird where you will offer a space for mutual accountability.
Money is not the only thing that gives loveships access to this space. Also, we believe that those who join this space all have a responsibility to contribute to its sustenance. Alexis and Sangodare are contributing time, materials, tools they have gathered, lessons they have learned and years of facilitation experience. They will not also be fundraising. We all have the opportunity to contribute. We contribute our time, experience, patience, money, commitment, wisdom and grace. At the same time that we want to make this space accessible to community, we also want to make it accessible for Alexis and Sangodare to create and sustain it for community.
Still others of us who cannot attend have the opportunity to contribute to the ongoing existence of this space by joining the Love on Deck and donating $38. As a part of the Love on Deck we will reach out to you first for updates on programming and Loveship/Lovebird resources. You will get the pre-orientation video Alexis and Sangodare have created about their first decade in Loveship and priority to sign up for the upcoming cohorts. This will also help us measure our community’s desire for this space and plan accordingly.
Loveship Co-hort #1: September 22- October 27
Webinar, Follow-up and (4) four practice chats. $380
Loveship Co-hort #2: January 10 - February 9
Webinar, Follow-up and (4) four practice chats. $400
Love on Deck
Loveship Pre-Orientation Video, Priority for Information about upcoming Co-hort openings - $38
NOTE: If the dates don't work for you, you don't want to make the financial investment at this time or whatever the reason;we strongly recommend that you join the waitlist. We think of this list as a way for people to sow a seed in the continuation of this programming and as an active communication of their commitment to what we are trying to accomplish more broadly.
Love on Deck
Loveship Pre-Orientation Video, Priority for Information about upcoming Co-hort openings - $38
As a part of the love on deck we will reach out to you first for updates on programming and Loveship/Lovebird resources. You will get the pre-orientation video Alexis and Sangodare have created about their first decade in loveship and priority to sign up for the upcoming cohorts. This will also help us measure our community’s desire for this space and plan accordingly.
NOTE: If the dates don't work for you, you don't want to make the financial investment at this time or whatever the reason; we strongly recommend that you join the Love on deck. We think of this list as a way for people to sow a seed in the continuation of this programming and other Loveship & Lovebird resources (like lliterature, meditations, outings, etc.) and as an active communication of their commitment to what we are trying to accomplish more broadly.
Retreat: November 15-17, 2019
3 days and 2 nights. Excellent Housing (private rm) and Meals provided (Durham, NC).
No flight, ground or other transportation provided to the retreat location. $900 per couple
(max 10 couples; payment plans are available for the retreat - $400 deposit and $100/month)
Retreat: February 14-16th, 2020
3 days and 2 nights. Excellent Housing (private rm) and Meals provided + Special Entertainment (Durham, NC). No flight, ground or other transportation provide to the retreat location. $1500 per couple
(max 10 couples; payment plans are available for the retreat - $500 deposit and $250/month)
How did you arrive at the cost?
We calculated all the costs to create the program and events and spread it out over how many people we felt like we could accommodate.
Will the costs ever go down or will scholarships be offered?
As discussed in the "OFFERING" section we don't want to put the added job of fundraising for this space on Alexis and Sangodare at this time. As their capacity to host more people increases the costs will be shared and spread out over more people and therefore go down.
We anticipate that some supporters will step forward to support other couples to be able to participate in this space. We have already made this request. When this happens scholarships will be offered.
Will interracial or white couples ever be able to attend?
Yes. Someday. We are prioritizing black people, indigenous people and people of color at this time but as our capacity increases we do intend to invite actively anti-racist couples to participate while we still intend to offer caucus spaces for those who prefer that as well.